Straight answers to the things men don’t say out loud.

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  Friendship

  Sample post: New city, no friends yet? Start with one evening.

  Why it gets harder with age, where to look, and how to turn one good evening into a second one.

  8 min listen·6 min read

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  Discipline

  Sample post: Why you keep saying “next month”

  It isn’t a time problem. What “next month” protects you from, and how to make this week count.

  6 min listen·5 min read

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  Dating

  Sample post: Hinge isn’t working. What to change first.

  Photos, prompts and the first message, in the order that matters.

  9 min listen·7 min read

• “Give the evening something to do.”

  Discipline

  Sample post: Your phone isn’t the problem. The empty evening is.

  Willpower isn’t the fix. What to put in the hours you lose to scrolling.

  6 min listen·5 min read

• “Same bedtime for seven days. Then judge.”

  Health

  Sample post: Always tired? Start with the boring fixes

  Sleep, light, food and movement, one at a time. And when it’s worth seeing a doctor.

  5 min listen·4 min read

• “Pointless and unbearable are different problems.”

  Career

  Sample post: Should you quit a job you find pointless?

  Three questions to answer before you hand anything in.

  7 min listen·6 min read

• “Envy is information. Read it, then put it down.”

  Purpose

  Sample post: Your friends earn more than you. Now what?

  What comparison is telling you, and what to do with it this month.

  6 min listen·5 min read

• “One easy line. Then let her decide.”

  Dating

  Sample post: Freeze when you talk to her? Start with one easy line.

  An easy opening, how to read her reply, and how to leave it well.

  5 min listen·4 min read